Matchmaker Interview with Siobhan Copland
Siobhan Copland is the owner and head matchmaker of the Cupid in the City Dating Agency.
Why did you decide to become a matchmaker?
Honestly, I didn’t set out to be a matchmaker, I was matching people before I even realised It was a career, it was something I did naturally, connecting people, whether that was introducing people who would become friends, connecting people with mutual interest in business, or dating. My background was corporate events, and I knew what made a good business connection, and have always been an avid networker, and just curious about people.
It was only when I started helping a comedian organise comedy events, that the idea of running a speed dating event came up, as a fun concept. That was in 2010, I really enjoyed the first one, it was due to be a one off charity fundraiser, but demand was high.
So I started to run them monthly, 6 months in, I had a singles database, and I naturally started looking at peoples details, and seeing who else I could match them with. So I sent out an email and asked who would be up for me setting them up on a 1:1 date, and almost everyone replied saying, yes please! The first couple I introduced fell in love pretty fast, and I was then hooked on the buzz of setting people up. And my obsession with matchmaking began.
I gave up my day job to pursue it full time the next year.
What makes you different to other companies/matchmakers?
What do you like most (and least) about being a matchmaker?
Do you think the way matchmakers are viewed in the UK is changing?
I think its starting to do a full circle, people used to use matchmakers all the time, and it was a trusted way to meet, then the apps got people curious, but now people are seeing although there seems to be a lot of choice on apps, they aren’t been given a fair chance to get themselves across, there is little to no connection, and they also often find it hard work, and frustrating, so they see matchmakers as a better route to go down, as they will be treated with courtesy and respect by the people they are introduced to, and at least know if they are seriously looking, they will meet people who are too.
Do you have any funny or interesting dating stories?
What’s the best advice you would give to someone looking for a partner?
What are the most common mistakes people make when dating?
What your greatest success story?
A couple who both said if they saw each other online wouldn’t have picked each other, but trusted my recommendation to meet, got engaged in 6 months. This is why I love it when clients, really put their trust in me, I love to be free to match intuitively, that’s where the magic happens
Have your met your own life partner? If so, how did you know they were the one?
Its funny, because you go out looking for what you want. But really the best kind of person you can end up with, is someone you want, but who really gives you just what you need.
I really feel now my wants and needs are fully met, and we are both committed to our own personal growth, and support each other to grow, with that our love and admiration for each other grows too.
Do you believe in soulmates?
I do, but not in the sense of we are only half of ourselves until we find the missing piece. I believe you can find it not just in a romantic partner, but you can have friendships where you feel like soulmates too.To me its really having someone that ‘gets you’ you don’t need to always explain yourself, there’s this deep knowing of one another, that is special and I think that’s where you really find life long connections. Where you can go a long time without seeing that person, and immediately you are connected like no time has really passed .
What qualities do you think make for a great partner?
What is the best way for a man to approach or a woman? Is it OK for a woman to approach a man?
What is the secret of a long and happy relationship?
How do you think dating is changing (especially due to the pandemic) and what will happen in the near future?
Now dates don’t need to be all about going to a fancy bar or restaurant, people are going back to basics, a walk in the park, picnics, just being together. Which really is in many ways a good thing, I think it may just bring back romance and courting. That’s my hope anyway!
What trends and changes do you see happening over the next few years in the dating world?
I’ve already seen a boom in matchmakers launching in 2020, and I think matchmaking will also be more affordable, before it used to be 5-6 figures to join an agency, so seemed to be only reserved for the elite. But it is becoming more accessible to people on different income levels. I also think there will be a lot more virtual events happening, following covid, I think this will also create more opportunities for people who were only looking in their city, to reach further afield, so more international connections too.
Any tips for Virtual Dating?
Make the effort, set your camera up so you have a flattering angle, make sure you have no interruptions, play a little background music if you like, to create more atmosphere. Still dress up for it. Have notes on your screen with some positive reminders of what to talk about, steer away from talking about things like covid, politics. Smile often.
Keep it brief, I would keep it to 30 minutes, keep them curious to know more.